“Because I always have a choice, I choose love” – Deepak Chopra
I have mixed feelings about Valentine’s Day, especially being single for it this year. And though I never think you should wait for February 14th to show your significant other some gratitude, I’m still happy for those who are in love and expressing it to the world. Do I feel bitter with the over-the-top marketing all around me? A little. And that’s when I remind myself to just breathe, cause it’s all good 🙂 I don’t hate Valentine’s Day, and I don’t pretend to not care about it. It’s there, and it likes to divide those who are in relationships and who aren’t, but we can combat any of the negative feelings associated with it by focussing on ourselves and our loved ones…and a few drinks with some close friends watching live music (’cause that’s what I’ll be doing tonight!). I have a ridiculous amount of things to be grateful for and am blessed to love so many people and have so many love me too.
In hindsight, this phase of my life is giving me the opportunity to really connect with myself. This is my time to figure my shit out so I can use less energy on all the negative self-talk and lack of self-confidence, and more energy on being productive and making a difference in this world…the things I really want to do!
My health & fitness journey hit a bit of a rough patch over the last few months, and I am only just starting to inch out of it now…slowly but surely. It was a big reminder to be gentle with myself, to be compassionate with myself, and to love myself. So as I continue on my journey towards a healthy, happy, fulfilling life, I thought I’d share some of my learnings on how to increase SELF-LOVE.
- Tell yourself “I love you” – like really tell yourself that! Have you ever looked yourself in the mirror and told yourself “I love you”? Go try it. You may feel a bit silly, or a lot silly, but once you get past that self-judgement, you’ll feel all warm and fuzzy inside.
- Mention yourself in your gratitude journal – Show yourself gratitude by acknowledging all the amazing characteristics and unique traits that make you YOU! Be thankful for the person you’ve become…mentally, spiritually, physically. Feels good, doesn’t it?
- Meditate – Try a self-compassion meditation. When your mind naturally wanders to whatever is troubling you, acknowledge it without judgement or self-criticism. Remind yourself you’re not alone, and offer yourself kind words like you would to a good friend.
- Positive affirmations – create positive emotions by repeating affirmations that create joy within yourself. Examples would be “I am enough”, “I lead a purposeful life”, and “I am capable”. Write them out and put them where you’ll read them daily, it’ll increase the chances of your subconscious mind picking up on it.
- Date yourself – Put as much effort into your relationship with yourself that you would in a relationship with a loved one. If you’ve been wanting to go out dancing, go out dancing! If you’ve been wanting to pamper yourself, pamper yourself! It’s all part of self-care and the more of it you do, the better you’ll feel about yourself, and the happier you’ll be.
The more we love and accept ourselves, the more we can love and accept others. So this Valentines Day, love your loved ones, but don’t forget to love yourSELF first…because you deserve it.
Happy Valentines Day!